World of Love

"The world is no longer a romantic place. Some of its people still are however, and therein lies the promise. Don't let the world win."

Is the world really no longer a romantic place? If so, I don't know how to react, because in such a case, it is disheartening and sad.

I have fallen in love and I have understood and experienced true love, but like all things, it ended! Love did not end, but love was lost to circumstances. I bounced back, because life goes on, whether you go with it or you don't!

One of the greatest changes in my life was ending a six years plus romance. I had to learn to say goodbye, because I realized that just because you love someone, does not mean you *have* to marry that someone!

Marriage is more than just union of bodies! Marriage is not only a lifelong commitment; it is also a big adjustment. I can easily blame the other person, but honestly I think blaming others makes no sense, and love ends long before it actually ends.

So now after literally yanking my safety net, I had to jump without choice, and at the moment I feel like I am floating mid air, it is a very long jump! However, I find I am not the only one; there are numerous individuals who are floating with me.

However, my concern is, "Was it really love or just an attraction?" I mean when I hear the love-tales (believe me there are many!) of my friends, I am baffled at the rate they fall in and out of love.

Yesterday, I was talking to my dear friend, and she said, "Well, if a person loves different individuals at different times, what's wrong with that?" Nothing is wrong with that! But to sing the same tune for different individuals sounds awful to me!

I mean, when in nature, no two things are alike, how can to individuals be? And in such a case, how can one feel the same thing for numerous individuals? This is beyond my understanding!

I mean every individual comes with different traits and personality and when you sing the same tune for all, that's like a weird generalization!

I do not know if I am capable of falling in love again, because for me, it takes ages to fall out of love and love is hard work!

I mean to fall in love is to make the other person your universe and you
become that person's universe as well!

When that happens, there is no insecurities, no jealousy, no questions and mutual respect, mutual understanding and mutual acceptance come naturally! It is an unconditional deal!

Now, the new rules of love baffle me, because love is no longer about giving, it is about receiving and I think love has become selfish and conditional.

It is not about loving the other person, but loving the idea of being in love that matters these days!

"As long as I am in love, I am happy, I do not care who I am in love with!" that is one of the statements I heard recently! And I thought that's really dreadful!

Is love really lost? Or has love died totally?

It is not unnatural to expect certain things from the person you love, however, I've learned that just because someone doesn't love you the way you want him / her to, doesn't mean s/he doesn't love you with all s/he has.

Of course, when it comes to marriage, I think everyone should go with their gut, if it dictates doubt, one should think million times before getting hitched.

I confess I am old school when it comes to love, because I think I need to believe that it works - love, couple-hood, partnerships. The idea that when people come together they stay together...I have to take that with me to bed every night, even if I'm going to bed alone.

That's a McBealism! And I loved the show, because of its awesome dialogues!

When I fall in love
It will be forever
Or I'll never fall in love

In a restless world
Like this is
Love is ended before it's begun
And too many
Moonlight kisses
Seem to cool in the warmth of the sun

When I give my heart
I give it completely
Or I'll never give my heart

And the moment I can feel that you feel that way too
Is when I fall in love with you

Such wonderful lyrics, but the way things are going; I just might not fall in love ever again or give my heart to anyone!

However, there is always hope and I do not want the world to win!

So to end this entry, I am using a quote by Robert Fulghum sent to me by my dearest friend Joey,

"I believe that imagination is stronger than knowledge - that myth is more potent than history. I believe that dreams are more powerful than facts - that hope triumphs over experience - that laughter is only cure for grief. And I believe that love is stronger than death."

Amen!